April 30, 2012
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"Sticks and Stone..."
My Xanga anniversary is in eight days (2 years), so I will be posting some oldies from time to time to count the days... Hope you enjoy.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words could never hurt me."
What an untrue statement that is, if that was true why would people get offended over being called horrible names, by ignorant people. And knowing that those people are ignorant -- I don't think that that quote about "sticks and stones" is accurate. I feel that it should be stricken from the world of popular quotes; never to be said again. Kind of like a morgue for quotes -- embalm it, burn it, bury it, but don't visit it. It's quite obvious that this quote is still ahead of its time; I can't think of any other reason why words no matter how much someone tells you that they are just words -- would forget, walk away, and let these mere words slide off their shoulders. Fighting for a cause would be to fight against oppression, genocide, ethnic cleansing, and hate ACTS done by groups of people; not just one dumb dumb that has about as much sense as a bum with his pockets turned inside out. Fighting with legs, fists, and weapons should be done only in defense against some, or someone's violent act(s) towards you. You are not being smarter than the ignorant when you are lowering your level to ignorant; notice the redundancy in what was just said about the ignorant, that should show you that you are no different, you are one in the same!
The only reason I write this, is because I have made the mistake of stooping down to a lower level and saying that it was in my defense, where in essence it was a waste of time. Nothing comes out of retaliation with the ignorant or unwise people, other then the example that I can be the same ignorant/unwise person they proved to be. Check it out, to give you imagery of what I am trying to say, I will give you an example; giving an ignorant/unwise person the same medicine is like looking in the mirror and seeing that ignorant/unwise person as your reflection. You move around and this heinous reflection is making the same movements you are! What do you do? Deal with it! You made the decision to retaliate and make war when you could have walked away. You become part of one another. I have done this and it sucks, no respect was gained; if anything, respect was lost; people were disappointed, angry, and sorry they ever met me. Trust me when I tell you this; it is not worth fighting word battles that try to prove something about absolutely nothing, but for the name of ignorance, and those ignorant instigators that try to lure you into their level of dirt, should be flicked off like flies and forgotten. People are going to say what they say be you and stay on the higher road.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
Comments (13)
I agree with you. Words can hurt, even much more that pain. A lot of people even prefer physical pain to emotional pain and that's why they cut. =/
You have a birthday and Xangaversary this month! Cool! My bday and xangaversary are also in the same month. Your Xangaversary is May 8th and bday is May20th. My Xangaversary is aug5th and bday aug 21st. Kinda freaky! =D
@catstemplar2 - Right back at ya brother, you're good people...
@ctaretz - ... and you think that way, bro. Remember when I use to call you a Cone Head ? It didn't bother you worth a damn. I love you for that, my brother.
@TheSutraDude - I agree.
@Xcite_Media - Thank you.. Yeah words are a lot more powerful than physical altercations... Words can cut like knives.
@GrimRpr000 - I agree.
@catstemplar2 - I like that last line... Very good way to think...
The stick and stone statement is a true statement. The reason it fails by many as a reality is because, most if not all people lack inner conviction. They figure if they are weak, then those weak statements that they say about us is true. Thing is overtime we realize that whatever was said at us in the past had no reality. Mission here, though a difficult one, is to know your name well so when someone calls you something different, it won't affect you.
Peace is something we learn and teach. The reason we have to learn and teach this is because we have been a suspicious creature since man caddied big sticks for protection and continually had to fight for survival! Ingrained in our behavior it may take eternity for this behavior to change BUT we still need to teach and try!
Grimm
It's easy to hurt people when we are online. I said things that I had since regretted saying. Truth is, words can inflict pain, but not in a physical way. It goes deeper and straight to the core of your being.
Wonderful post. Got me thinking.
i agree. i think the quote is used in part is used to tell kids not to get into physical fights over name calling but can do serious harm. the reason i often confront people i already know to be of ill intention on Xanga is because others might not know and might accept the person's words as "truth" as is often the case in the online world. an over the top example for sake of clarity might be seeing someone say "so and so scammed people out of money on Facebook." it could be a total lie yet how many people would read that and say "Wow I didn't know that. That's terrible. I'll stay away from them." if i know it's not true it's my responsibility to jump in and refute it.
@ctaretz - Haha you got it!
@vixen_with_a_cause - I agree and I am happy you were comfortable enough to share with me. Please don't leave me anytime soon...
I agree 100%. Much like "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent", it CAN be true after years of learning and maturity, but many people don't even establish that by the time they're on their deathbed. Words DO hurt.
I fight with myself to this day about how to fight ignorance without stooping to that level. It takes constant reminders that people are only humiliating themselves by being that way, but what sucks about it is that the world is overrun with ignoramuses who will support the continuance of it and make you feel as if you're in the wrong. I try my best to do the right thing but unlike many, should I make a mistake, I take RESPONSIBILITY for it and learn from it instead of being a narcissist (not that it makes it ok, but we learn). That's how you grow up. If you can't do that, this world will swallow you whole. Too bad the ignorant only learn that when it's too late.
@Coffee_Kaioken - I hear ya.
I think that's just something kids in grade schools say to retaliate against other kids whom are teasing them (and at that age, we can't tell the difference between teasing and actual harassment).
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